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How We Love Summary and Review
TGR Verdict: ★★★★☆ 4.3/5 A clear, memorable framework that translates attachment theory into five named love styles, making it easy for couples…
Read Summary →Milan & Kay Yerkovich
"Married co-authors who translate attachment theory into five named 'love styles' that explain why couples keep triggering the same old wounds."
Milan Yerkovich is an ordained minister and pastoral counselor with over 30 years of experience in marriage and family ministry, and co-hosts a call-in counseling show for New Life Ministries. Kay Yerkovich is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a clinical focus on attachment theory. Together they founded How We Love, an organization offering workshops, quizzes, and counseling built around the framework in their book How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage, which argues that childhood attachment patterns create an 'intimacy imprint' that continues to shape adult romantic relationships.
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Books by Milan & Kay Yerkovich
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Key Ideas & Recurring Themes
Attachment Imprints
Childhood attachment patterns that create an 'intimacy imprint' shaping how adults behave in marriage decades later.
The Five Love Styles
Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator, Controller, and Victim — five wound-based patterns rooted in specific childhood home environments.
The Comfort Circle
An asymmetrical listener/speaker structure designed to interrupt fight, flight, or freeze reactions and build emotional safety between partners.
Notable Quotes
"Your childhood created an intimacy imprint that affects your marriage today."— How We Love
"The good news is, marriage offers an opportunity for you and your mate to be each other's healer as you face these wounds together."— How We Love
Book Author Milan & Kay Yerkovich
How We Love Summary and Review
TGR Verdict: ★★★★☆ 4.3/5 A clear, memorable framework that translates attachment theory into five named love styles, making it easy for couples to spot exactly which old childhood pattern is driving their current fight. How We Love in one minute…